And you may be thinking about some past problematic holidays and hoping this year will be different. You know that saying, “you can’t change other people, but you can change yourself”? Well, you can change how you manage these events with a strategy to deal with the difficult people you may encounter. They could be your elderly relatives or anyone you’ll see at holiday time.
Holiday visits bring people with underlying issues together. Otherwise, they may avoid each other. Unfortunately, family conflicts can heat up at these get togethers.
Dr. Mikol Davis, psychologist here at AgingParents.com, offers you these 4 tips to help you change how you view your family get togethers and how you can better manage them.
First, adopt an attitude of gratitude for the positive things.
Second, respond rather than react.
Third, there is always a choice to avoid engaging with a difficult person.
Fourth, stay in the moment.
Meanwhile, we both wish you peaceful holiday gatherings and may your own personal stresses be kept to a minimum.
Until next time,
Carolyn Rosenblatt and Mikol Davis