First, we do have to put ourselves first sometimes.  What’s best for us, best for our own families and our own peace of mind must be a serious consideration.  Sacrificing our sanity for the sake of caregiving is not the best choice. Delegate and find others to help if having too much of the caregiver [...]

Have you had to deal with this? Some families are being torn apart about disagreements over finances, care, aging parents and each other’s roles. It often looks like this: Imagine that you have an aging loved one who has cognitive impairment.  You are aware that your loved one is “slipping”.  You tell yourself it’s ok. [...]

We’ve been asking ourselves this question. Would Mom be better off in a different community? My mother in law Alice, is now 90.  She lives alone in a 2700 square foot home that she enjoys. It’s in a retirement community with lots of amenities. But, you have to drive everywhere. She is a bit isolated [...]

Sometimes, there’s just no substitute for a face to face visit.  Adult children may be getting a wake-up call this season when  you visit aging parents.  Little things you can’t learn in a phone call can come to light. Their health may be a concern because you see visible changes on your visit, such as [...]

Aging Parent Crisis – How To Cope Aging parents are living longer than ever and it creates a new need for their adult children: you have to know what to do with the many crises that come up. As our aging parents reach their 80′s and 90′s or beyond, we are going to be faced [...]

The political battle on health care reform rages on. But the debate totally misses some important features of the Affordable Care Act that directly affect elders. Maybe people who oppose the Supreme Court decision don’t want to look as if they are against elders so they avoid discussing a number of the real benefits to [...]

We’ve got a new webinar to share with you!  This is a subject that brings up a lot of fear for those with aging parents who don’t plan ahead or won’t talk about money with you.  We’ll help you see how to avoid the pitfalls others have fallen into before you get there.  One man [...]

The Tough Question: Move In With Your Aging Parent? We hope you are enjoying the beginning of spring and this time of renewal.  Mikol and I have recently moved our offices to new, brighter and better space and we’re feeling very renewed!  Wouldn’t you agree that there is nothing like disposing of junk and unwanted [...]

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Carolyn and Mikol here. We just got in an alert from the The National Legal Resource Center (NLRC) and we wanted to share it with you. Can you believe this?   Professional criminals are now targeting people with diabetes to scam them for personal information. Here’s how it works.  Someone pretending to be from the government, [...]

Hidden Truths About Long Term Care Insurance Should you or shouldn’t you? Seems as if someone is always promoting the purchase of long term care insurance. Most of us don’t want to think about getting old and needing anything like that. If we ever think about it, it’s a thing we want to defer until [...]

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I’m hearing this same painful thing a lot lately. Aging parents who have “early dementia” are refusing help and verbally abusing their adult kids who are trying to help. In all these situations, the aging parent was a controlling type person before dementia developed. It could have been a business owner, a professor, a CFO [...]

Alice knows.  She’s 89 and she works at her health. She is a widow and lives alone. My husband and I just spent some time visiting  my mother in law, Alice, and we were pleased to see that she is taking such good care of herself.  We are among the lucky ones, as Alice has [...]

Should you or shouldn’t you? Seems as if someone is always promoting the purchase of long term care insurance. Most of us don’t want to think about getting old and needing anything like that. If we ever think about it, it’s a thing we want to defer until later. The insurance industry really wants our [...]

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While boomers save for retirement, some are also helping to support their own parents—and wrestling with some tough questions. Violet, age 92 and still living alone in her own home, is running out of money. She took out a mortgage to meet her monthly living expenses and to support her husband, who has dementia and [...]

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