Posts Tagged ‘medicaid’

Aging in Place …..upcoming Event April 8, 2010 SENIORS RESOURCE FORUM

Tuesday, March 2nd, 2010

Aging in Place


Will You Live Out Your Life At Home?
Expert speakers’ topics will include:


• All About Home Care
• Why Do You Need Care Management?
• What Are Adult Day Programs in Marin?
• How To Best Use Local Senior Resources

SENIORS RESOURCE FORUM
When: Thursday, April 8, 2010
Time: 2:00 pm – 4:00 pm
Where: Whistlestop
930 Tamalpais
San Rafael, CA

Following the presentation, meet with our experts one-on-one with
your questions about:

• Adult Day Services
• Affordable Housing
• Estate and Medi-Cal Planning
• Family Legal Issues
• Geriatric Care Management
• Geriatric Psychological Issues
• Home Care
• Long-Term Care and Medicare Insurance
• Transportation Alternatives
• Financial Planning

Presented by the Seniors Resource Forum (Sponsored by Marinlink), a volunteer
nonprofit organization for community education
www.seniorsresourceforum.com
Reservations recommended: (415) 485-3348

Light refreshments will be served. Some parking is available.

Holidays and visiting our aging parents

Monday, December 21st, 2009

Many of us have not seen our parents for much of the year. iStock_000005192329XSmallNow with the holidays upon us, many of us will be spending time with our aging loved ones. Sometimes we find that mom and or dad have begun to show some slipping in their day to day functioning. The direct visual awareness of our parents falling compentencies is often a wake up call to do some planning for the future. Here’s a “heads up” about our own denial:  most of us cope with difficult or unpleasant realities by using denial.  That is, we pretend. We make excuses.  They don’t have a memory loss problem, they’re just tired.  We overlook, ignore, and even use what psychologists call “magical thinking”.  It doesn’t exist.  Our parent isn’t failing in health, they’re just having a bad day.

The visit to parents is an opportunity.  You can see, first hand, how they’re getting along.  You have a chance to bring up any concerns in a gentle and respectful way, after the party is over and when things are a little quieter.  I’m urging our readers to think about a visit as a chance to do some planning ahead while you are face to face with your elders.  Do yourself a favor this holiday season. Take the time to talk about what might happen over time, when most elders need some kind of help.  Sadly, most people wait for a crisis to do any planning, and then, it can be too late to get documents signed, get the information you need to help you with decision-making, and go forward with what you parent wants.  There’s a rule of thumb that you can follow:  if your parent is in his or her 70′s or older, and you’re in your 40′s or older, now’s the time for the talk.

Be sure you ask about where your parents want to age as they possibly need help with everyday activities.  If they say they want to stay at home, as most people prefer, talk about money.  How will they pay for help at home?  Who will provide it?  Are the legal documents in place, such as durable power of attorney and healthcare directive (also called proxy)?  Does your family know who will be in charge of making decisions if your parents are incapacitated?

All this may not feel so festive, but it’s certainly necessary.  It’s a season of peace.  Good information and taking the responsibility to start the conversation about these issues can bring peace of mind to all.

Choosing Medicaid to Pay For a Nursing Home

Tuesday, October 27th, 2009

Choosing Medicaid to Pay For a Nursing HomeHow to Choose a Nursing Home

By Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, R.N., B.S.N., Attorney

Many lawyers who do estate planning spend a lot of time helping where they can to arrange for elderly people to qualify for Medicaid.  Depending on the requirements in your state, various things must be done with money to qualify a person for Medicaid. The idea is to “preserve assets” or protect the elder from having to spend money for care when the elder can qualify for Medicaid and get the state to pay for care.  We’re not talking about folks who are truly poor and have no assets.

What’s wrong with this picture?  I challenge those urging and assisting elders who own expensive homes and have plenty of money to get on Medicaid to explain in detail what care the elder will qualify for, once eligible for Medicaid.  When a lot of help is needed, the only choice is a nursing home.  Does anyone want to purposely impoverish him or herself for the privilege of living in a nursing home?

I have worked in nursing homes. I’ve been an aide, a staff nurse, and a charge nurse in nursing homes with most or all of the beds for Medicaid residents. I have also sued nursing homes on behalf of neglected elders. I don’t recommend it as a choice unless that is the only alternative.

Why do I say this?  It is clear to me, and to any lawyer who has sued nursing homes for neglect of an elder that nursing homes can be unsafe places.  The elder’s new “home” in such a facility is usually like a hospital room.  It may be shared with one, two, or as many as three other residents.  There is no privacy.  It can be quite noisy, and it isn’t going to feel very homey.

Sometimes a nursing home is the best place, because the level of nursing care the elder needs simply can’t be given in any other setting, or the elder can’t afford around the clock care at home.  However, there are those who have been persuaded to choose a nursing home so that their money can go to their heirs, and not be spent on quality care at home.  This exists, ignoring the fact that the rate of depression in nursing homes is about 80% of the residents.

Until we get rid of the hospital model of how a nursing home should be, and focus our resources on making such homes into pleasant places to live, I think choosing to legally hide one’s assets, give them to heirs, and get the forced choice of Medicaid-paid care, we are short-changing our elders.

This opinion will undoubtedly anger some estate planning attorneys, as well as the adult children who can’t wait to get their hands on the money Mom or Dad is giving up to “protect their assets”.  Protect them from what? From actually ensuring that a parent has quality of life in his or her own home for as long as possible by paying for good help on their own?

I hope some lawyers with a conscience and a true understanding of what Medicaid will buy for the elder will urge older people to take care of themselves first and worry less about what their adult children are going to inherit. In too many instances, the price of a generous inheritance is sacrificed quality of life in the parent’s last years or months.

Carolyn L.  Rosenblatt, RN, BSN, Attorney, AgingParents.com