By Carolyn L. Rosenblatt, RN, BSN, Attorney
Yesterday, there was a news report of another heartbreaking story of an elder who died of exposure after wandering outside a nursing home. She got lost and died in the cold. How does this happen? It’s not the first story I’ve read of such a tragic death. Aren’t the care facilities watching our elders?
The truth is, it’s hard to keep track of elders who get confused and wander. Care facilities that offer skilled nursing, as this facility did, are supposed to be able to monitor their residents and keep them safe at all times. Federal and State regulations mandate that safety precautions be taken to protect elders who are known to be confused and unable to protect themselves. What goes wrong?
I’ve read the citations from our state, hundreds of them, given to nursing care facilities which failed to keep their residents safe and something went terribly wrong. What goes wrong is that in every instance, the facility is violating its own policies and procedures by not paying attention, being distracted, or simply by having incompetent staff.
What can be done about this? How can we prevent it? First, the state needs to more carefully monitor and significantly punish facilities that violate safety standards. A common consequence when the state finds a safety violation is a citation and a small fine to the facility. Guess that’s not doing the job, is it? Sometimes, these facilities need to be shut down. Cutting state budgets for enforcement of the rules literally costs lives.
Further, families need to become the safety police. They need to call their elder every day and visit whenever possible. I can assure you that the quality of care a nursing home resident gets has a relationship to how often family visits and calls to check on them. If your elder has a tendency to wander outside, be sure you insist that safety measures are in place, specifically tailored to your aging loved one’s habits and needs. If you speak up, ask questions and require accountability, your parent or loved one’s chances to stay safe are a lot better.
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Now with the holidays upon us, many of us will be spending time with our aging loved ones. Sometimes we find that mom and or dad have begun to show some slipping in their day to day functioning. The direct visual awareness of our parents falling compentencies is often a wake up call to do some planning for the future. Here’s a “heads up” about our own denial: most of us cope with difficult or unpleasant realities by using denial. That is, we pretend. We make excuses. They don’t have a memory loss problem, they’re just tired. We overlook, ignore, and even use what psychologists call “magical thinking”. It doesn’t exist. Our parent isn’t failing in health, they’re just having a bad day.