Comments for Aging Parents http://agingparents.com/blog Passionate About A Better Quality Of Life For Our Aging Loved Ones Wed, 12 Oct 2011 23:08:37 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on A Sure-Fire Strategy To Calm Family Conflicts by Medicare Tips http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=911&cpage=1#comment-149 Medicare Tips Wed, 12 Oct 2011 23:08:37 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=911#comment-149 I ccan relate with all you've said. The role reversal creates a certain air of tension on the relationship between parents and their children. With both parties trying to gain control, conflict and tensions become inevitable. The parents to keep a certain amount of control in their life contradicts most, if not all, of the suggestions from their children. And the children worried sick about their parents trying to put a reign on the issue to ensure their parents safety. I ccan relate with all you’ve said. The role reversal creates a certain air of tension on the relationship between parents and their children. With both parties trying to gain control, conflict and tensions become inevitable. The parents to keep a certain amount of control in their life contradicts most, if not all, of the suggestions from their children. And the children worried sick about their parents trying to put a reign on the issue to ensure their parents safety.

]]> Comment on Elderly Couple for 62 years – We are only as old as we feel! by Medicare Tips http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=920&cpage=1#comment-148 Medicare Tips Sun, 09 Oct 2011 17:26:14 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=920#comment-148 What a splendid performance. Their chemistry exudes on screen. They truly are the picture of a perfect couple. :) Kudos to you! :) What a splendid performance. Their chemistry exudes on screen. They truly are the picture of a perfect couple. :)

Kudos to you! :)

]]> Comment on The $4M Ripoff: Is Anyone Paying Attention? by Medicare Tips http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=764&cpage=1#comment-147 Medicare Tips Sun, 09 Oct 2011 00:53:06 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=764#comment-147 I saw this article and I just can't let this pass without leaving a comment. I feel really saddened by this incident. I hope this woman got what she deserve. Such kind of incidences must be stopped or at least minimized. I hope those in authority does something to protect the elders from such offense. I saw this article and I just can’t let this pass without leaving a comment.

I feel really saddened by this incident. I hope this woman got what she deserve. Such kind of incidences must be stopped or at least minimized. I hope those in authority does something to protect the elders from such offense.

]]> Comment on Hidden Truths About Long Term Care Insurance by Medicare Tips http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=916&cpage=1#comment-146 Medicare Tips Sun, 09 Oct 2011 00:47:39 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=916#comment-146 Another excellently written Carolyn. :) I have been following your post and they were all very informative. With this article I couldn't agree with you better. Having a Long Term Care insurance would really come in handy for our seniors, especially at this day and time that the life expectancy is going up. With the price of health care increase over the years, senior's retirement funds can easily get depleted. Another excellently written Carolyn. :) I have been following your post and they were all very informative. With this article I couldn’t agree with you better. Having a Long Term Care insurance would really come in handy for our seniors, especially at this day and time that the life expectancy is going up. With the price of health care increase over the years, senior’s retirement funds can easily get depleted.

]]> Comment on Check List For Determining The Best Nursing Home by SHCStamford http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=815&cpage=1#comment-141 SHCStamford Sat, 13 Aug 2011 13:19:42 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=815#comment-141 We all understand that caring for senior parents, a family member with Alzheimer’s or Dementia or someone injured or convalescing requires the caregiver to be empathetic, patient and gentle. Caregiver must provide constant companionship and care, while ensuring the safety of the patient. But how can a family caregiver with no experience in finding care, find the right person to care for mom and dad? Family caregivers, children of parents who need care, often have their own young family, a business or a job that requires travelling. Balancing personal family life and professional responsibilities with caring for parents is not easy. Browsing through postings in the church, supermarket or reading craigslist ad claiming to provide care for your parents may be a start but what about the background check or license or experience in providing that specific type of care for your loved one? I compiled a list of items that you must look for in a home care agency, before you hire a care giver. * The home care company must be local. They must be located, no more then 30 miles from your home or the location where care needs to be provided. * They must be licensed by the state and carry the required level of insurances necessary to conduct the business. Ask to check their license or verify the license directly with the state licensing body. * Best home care companies are often small, with owners directly involved in managing the caregivers, working with the patients and family, ensuring that the right caregivers are assigned to patients. * The best in-home care agencies respond immediately to your home care needs. They treat all calls with the same level of urgency, knowing full well, that a simple fall could be a sign of a more serious issue. * They should have someone available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. * They should guarantee that services will always be provided. Sometimes care for loved ones is needed at odd hours, nights and weekends. Only small local companies, rooted in the community, can do that. * Their employees should be certified and licensed + they must be bonded against theft. This cannot be stressed enough - certifications and licensing ensures that the employee is competent to provide the right level of care to the patient. Direct home care agency owner involvement in the care assessment and caregiver assignment ensures that caregivers who are experienced in that type of case are assigned to the patient, ensuring a) safety of the patient and b) speedy recovery and a better quality of life for the patient and lastly, it provides the peace of mind to the family caregiver. * The caregivers must be company employees, not contract employees. This way, the owners can ensure that minimum care standards are met and owners can swiftly deal with any potential issues. * They should screen their employees and have national criminal background checks run on each of them. * Good home care agencies provide periodic visits to your home in order to check on their employee and to make sure that you are happy with the services you’re receiving. Great home care agency go one step beyond and ensure that the caregiver is at the service location, when promised. A great home care agency will often have backup caregivers, in case a true emergency occurs and the primary caregiver cannot make it for any reason. Okay, that was my top to checklist for finding great in home care. Now that you are fully equipped to find the right home care agency, one last word of advice. Did you directly speak with the owner of the company? What is their personal story? Did they “feel” like they would provide the right level of care for your parents or loved ones? Trust your instincts, follow my checklist and avoid the bad apples of the home care industry. I hope above checklist helps make you an informed decision about the care of your loved ones. I look forward to working with you to find the right care for your mom, dad or another loved one. Please do not hesitate to call me @ (203) 661-6969 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I work with the residents of Greenwich, Stamford, Darien, New Canaan and Norwalk Connecticut but I am happy to speak to you and provide you referrals to great home care agencies throughout New England. We all understand that caring for senior parents, a family member with Alzheimer’s or Dementia or someone injured or convalescing requires the caregiver to be empathetic, patient and gentle. Caregiver must provide constant companionship and care, while ensuring the safety of the patient. But how can a family caregiver with no experience in finding care, find the right person to care for mom and dad? Family caregivers, children of parents who need care, often have their own young family, a business or a job that requires travelling. Balancing personal family life and professional responsibilities with caring for parents is not easy.

Browsing through postings in the church, supermarket or reading craigslist ad claiming to provide care for your parents may be a start but what about the background check or license or experience in providing that specific type of care for your loved one?

I compiled a list of items that you must look for in a home care agency, before you hire a care giver.

* The home care company must be local. They must be located, no more then 30 miles from your home or the location where care needs to be provided.

* They must be licensed by the state and carry the required level of insurances necessary to conduct the business. Ask to check their license or verify the license directly with the state licensing body.

* Best home care companies are often small, with owners directly involved in managing the caregivers, working with the patients and family, ensuring that the right caregivers are assigned to patients.

* The best in-home care agencies respond immediately to your home care needs. They treat all calls with the same level of urgency, knowing full well, that a simple fall could be a sign of a more serious issue.

* They should have someone available to you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

* They should guarantee that services will always be provided. Sometimes care for loved ones is needed at odd hours, nights and weekends. Only small local companies, rooted in the community, can do that.

* Their employees should be certified and licensed + they must be bonded against theft. This cannot be stressed enough – certifications and licensing ensures that the employee is competent to provide the right level of care to the patient. Direct home care agency owner involvement in the care assessment and caregiver assignment ensures that caregivers who are experienced in that type of case are assigned to the patient, ensuring a) safety of the patient and b) speedy recovery and a better quality of life for the patient and lastly, it provides the peace of mind to the family caregiver.

* The caregivers must be company employees, not contract employees. This way, the owners can ensure that minimum care standards are met and owners can swiftly deal with any potential issues.

* They should screen their employees and have national criminal background checks run on each of them.

* Good home care agencies provide periodic visits to your home in order to check on their employee and to make sure that you are happy with the services you’re receiving. Great home care agency go one step beyond and ensure that the caregiver is at the service location, when promised. A great home care agency will often have backup caregivers, in case a true emergency occurs and the primary caregiver cannot make it for any reason.

Okay, that was my top to checklist for finding great in home care. Now that you are fully equipped to find the right home care agency, one last word of advice. Did you directly speak with the owner of the company? What is their personal story? Did they “feel” like they would provide the right level of care for your parents or loved ones? Trust your instincts, follow my checklist and avoid the bad apples of the home care industry.

I hope above checklist helps make you an informed decision about the care of your loved ones. I look forward to working with you to find the right care for your mom, dad or another loved one. Please do not hesitate to call me @ (203) 661-6969 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I work with the residents of Greenwich, Stamford, Darien, New Canaan and Norwalk Connecticut but I am happy to speak to you and provide you referrals to great home care agencies throughout New England.

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]]> Comment on He Let His Mother Rot To Death While He Played Internet Poker by medicare advantage 2012 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=682&cpage=1#comment-139 medicare advantage 2012 Sun, 07 Aug 2011 12:07:53 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=682#comment-139 These stories all made me sad and angry. How can these people do that to them? Its really very, very sad. Our law makers must really do something to protect the elderly, the sick and the weak. These stories all made me sad and angry. How can these people do that to them? Its really very, very sad. Our law makers must really do something to protect the elderly, the sick and the weak.

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]]> Comment on Do we always turn into our Aging Parents? by Dr. Mikol Davis http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=562&cpage=1#comment-132 Dr. Mikol Davis Thu, 30 Dec 2010 03:30:19 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=562#comment-132 Dear Fellow Boomer, Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post. We are all dealing with the challenges of learning to age successfully. I have treated thousands of people over the last thirty-six years as a psychologist, and continue to be amazed at the mistakes we make as loving parents. Thank you for practicing true compassion for your aging parents. Perhaps your children will learn from your powerful and selfless modeling. Dr. Mikol Davis Dear Fellow Boomer,
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post. We are all dealing with the challenges of learning to age successfully. I have treated thousands of people over the last thirty-six years as a psychologist, and continue to be amazed at the mistakes we make as loving parents. Thank you for practicing true compassion for your aging parents. Perhaps your children will learn from your powerful and selfless modeling.

Dr. Mikol Davis

]]> Comment on Do we always turn into our Aging Parents? by 714domo http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=562&cpage=1#comment-131 714domo Thu, 30 Dec 2010 02:31:50 +0000 http://agingparents.com/blog/?p=562#comment-131 I just recently turned 42 and definitely hear my parents coming out of me on almost a daily basis. It's actually kind of funny to me becuase I, too, didn't think I wanted to be like my parents when I was a ridiculous teenager. Now, I am so thankful for all that I have learned from my parents and the qualities I have inherited from them: optimism, sound judgement, work ethic, and true caring for others. I think the last one is why I am embracing this caring for our aging parents theme so much. I am lucky to still have my parents with me and for my partner's mother to still be with us at the age of 89. Each of them are beginning to show signs of slowing down and I am being forced, quite willingly, to explore all there is to know about how best to care for them in the same caring and loving way I was cared for when I needed it. I have come to more fully appreciate those cultures that value caring for the elderly as important as our culture seems to value wealth/power/prestige. I just recently turned 42 and definitely hear my parents coming out of me on almost a daily basis. It’s actually kind of funny to me becuase I, too, didn’t think I wanted to be like my parents when I was a ridiculous teenager. Now, I am so thankful for all that I have learned from my parents and the qualities I have inherited from them: optimism, sound judgement, work ethic, and true caring for others. I think the last one is why I am embracing this caring for our aging parents theme so much. I am lucky to still have my parents with me and for my partner’s mother to still be with us at the age of 89. Each of them are beginning to show signs of slowing down and I am being forced, quite willingly, to explore all there is to know about how best to care for them in the same caring and loving way I was cared for when I needed it. I have come to more fully appreciate those cultures that value caring for the elderly as important as our culture seems to value wealth/power/prestige.

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